We all know sexual satisfaction in a relationship is important.
Research shows that sexual satisfaction leads to higher levels of personal confidence, commitment, relationship stability and a lower divorce rate. If we all know the impact of a healthy sex life, why is it so difficult to talk about when we don’t have one?
Avoiding the issue will only exacerbate it.
It’s easy to ignore a problem by focusing on the hectic day-to-day activities of modern life.
Sooner or later, those problems are going to start catching up with you. Sex is vital to bonding with your partner and dealing with stress.
You can begin by having a talk with yourself. Writing it down before saying it out loud can help you identify exactly what you want to say.
Here are five conversation starters to get moving in a positive direction:
“I know I haven’t wanted to have sex lately. I want you to know that it’s not because I don’t want you.”
When one partner doesn’t want to have sex, it can make the other question their desirability. Letting your partner know you still love them and want them can immediately relieve a lot of tension. The two of you can then discuss what steps you want to take like seeing a doctor and making lifestyle changes.
“We haven’t been having sex lately, and I miss being close with you. We should talk about it.”
There are many reasons a partner may have lost a desire to have sex. Don’t spend time making up a list of the absolute worst-case reasons why this could be the case. Your partner may be defensive at first, but make it clear you are not blaming them and you are willing to work through it together.
“We both know I haven’t been interested in sex lately. The truth is that I just don’t have confidence about my body, and it’s gotten to me.”
Sometimes we get into our heads so deep it seems like we can’t get out. Both men and women experience body confidence issues. This can be associated with weight gain due to lifestyle or loss of hormones.
It might be caused by changes to the body after childbirth that could be addressed with simple non-invasive procedures like FemiWave, an alternative to labiaplasty.
No matter what the cause, if you don’t get to the bottom of it, it won’t change.
“I miss having sex with you, but I just honestly never have the energy to do it. Will you help me figure this out?”
There are many reasons why you might not have as much energy as you used to have. Many people accept this as a natural part of aging, but there might be underlying issues at play that a doctor could help identify and resolve. It could be as simple as talking to a hormone specialist about bioidentical hormones or Human Growth Hormone (HGH).
Remember: when you don’t know what to do, asking for help is the best thing to do!
“Will you read this HealthGAINS blog with me?”
Okay, so we are not above a little shameless self-promotion. However, we are sharing all this information to empower people like you to start the conversation and get back on the path to a healthy sex life.
Sharing a blog can be an easy way to have the talk you need to have with your partner because it takes the initial focus off the two of you and opens the door to a later, more personal conversation.
If you are ready to start the journey to regaining energy, self-confidence, and a fulfilling sex life, get started with a free consultation at HealthGAINS.